Nice Guys/Good Girls

hey people,

I've been listening to these two songs a lot these days and it has got me thinking.The two songs are nice guys by Chester see, kevjumba & Ryan higa plus good girls by gzee,ms hyper singer,the pharmer girl & dee.Basically its just talking about how nice guys and good girls turn themselves into someone else because nice guys and good girls supposedly finish last.

It really makes me wonder do nice guys and good girls really finish last? Maybe yes and maybe no because from my observation,usually bad boys always get the girls and the sexier girls have a easier time getting guys but honestly how many of those relationships really last?

I've been with normal,neutral,good as in nice and bad guys.From my observation,bad boys are more exciting,more fun because you can never predict what are they gonna do next where else with nice guys,its more predictable,more steady that sometimes it does get to a point that people will say 'boring' (insert sarcastic tone here) however I've realised that those relationships are for the best because steady is good compared to excitement that comes and goes.

When a relationship is steady,people tend to make more effort to keep the relationship going as they never exactly feel its boring or lost its spark because things have always been steady however compared to relationships that is excitement,excitement,excitement and then it dies off,people have to make more of an extra effort to keep things going and eventually they might tire of it,that's my observation.

I've tried dressing sexier,wearing makeup,doing my hair in different styles to attract the 'bad guys' but in the end i find that being the good girl is more me,more comfortable and if the guy can't love you for being you then maybe he is never the guy you needed/wanted at all.

Nice guys/good girls never finish last because it takes the right guy/girl to appreciate them and I've found my nice guy to appreciate my good girl side :)

January 2011 Reflections

Its now 30th January 2011.On Tuesday,it will be the 2nd month into 2011.Times passes by so fast.So far in January,i've learned a few things about myself and about people.I'll probably do a monthly post about things that i've learned so far in 2011.

Things i've learned so far in January 2011

1. I can slowly but surely trust again without hesitating.
2. Rejection won't break me but i can surely learn to ignore it and move on
3. People will always talk so either give them something worthy enough to talk about or ignore them and move on because dwelling on things does not help the matter or your feelings at all
4. swings will always make me happy
5. I can smile in photographs,it just depends on who is taking the photograph
6. I'm slowly loving more colours and am leaning towards more colourful accessories and clothing
7. I'm starting to love vintage looking dresses and clothing and accessories
8. people will either sugarcoat their words or be extremely brutal so be careful and look beyond the words and between the lines
9. I've learned that it is ok to be fearful of losing someone or something important and that it is not weak to feel that way
10. Friends who really love you will be there for you if you really need them even if its 2 in the morning
11. It doesn't take much to make someone happy,just a bit of attention sometimes will actually do the trick
12. I've learned that it is ok to feel happy and love again

Pretty Girls Rule The World?

i'm slightly emo today so forgive my post.all based on my opinions and me being slightly irrationally emo and wanna rant.

In my opinion,pretty girls rule the world.they so get away with a lot of things.even guys go for them more based on looks.pretty girls can have piercings and tattoos but its ok for them cause it 'enhances' their beauty but lets put it this way,if a plus sized girl have tattoos and piercings because its her way to express herself,people judge her like 'omg,she must be a bad girl' and bla bla bla.

For me,i've never thought i was cute or pretty or beautiful.that's my judgement on myself.pretty girls get away with hanging out with guys but for me,God only knows how i feel when i feel the stares on me or even hear the whispers behind my back when i hang out with the boys.Even one time,one of my 'friend' actually said literally behind me stuff like 'my gosh,she has like a guy for every class'.

At one point of time,The Boi & also The Guy accompanied me to some of my classes if we happen to have the same timing or if they are free to accompany me.that girl said that while she was sitting in the row behind me and loud enough for me to hear it.it took all of my willpower not to march up to her and actually shout at her for it because that was so judgemental!she don't even know me very well enough.i've always been more comfortable with guys ever since i was young so for me to hang out with the boys,its not weird for me.

For me,i've always seen pretty girls hanging out with guys and no one much gives her grief about it.even if some girls whisper about it,other people dismiss it as those girls are jealous of the pretty girl.As for me,i always get the stares and the whispers and the questions like 'omg,are you with another guy already' and many other idiotic questions which sometimes i don't even wanna dignify it with an answer.

I'm always the girl to hear of guys telling me like 'omg,this girl is so hot,i wanna go after her' or 'this pretty girl is my target' and stuff.see the pattern there which is 'hot or pretty'? no like 'i like her personality' or 'she is nice to me' which i find it so absurd.think 20-30 years later,when the girl is no longer pretty or hot then go for another girl?

i'm just basically ranting here.sometimes i wish things is slightly more equal between all types of girls and i'm mean enough to say this at this point,guys stop thinking with your you know what or just looking with your eyes.think with your brain and look with your heart.that's all.kthxbai.

Love The Way You Lie

I downloaded this song by Eminem featuring Rihanna without knowing exactly what the song is about.When i first listened to it,i thought "cool,it has nice beats,Rihanna sounds good and really good rapping by Eminem" and then i googled the lyrics.Trust me,i shuddered when i read the lyrics because its about abusive relationships.

I've been in that situation just a couple of months before.I do not want to disclose what happened exactly but now i feel that i should have gotten out of that situation sooner.I guess love sometimes really makes someone blind.The music video was released on Thursday night.I watched it yesterday and i was actually shivering because some of the things in the video has actually happened to me before.

Its painful.Its not the physical pain that i have to live with,its more on emotional and mental.Day by day,these thoughts run through my mind such as "did he really love me?was it just a difficult relationship?if i had stayed,would things have gotten better?" This is a difficult topic for me to blog on as i really believe that is really personal and its the first time i'm publicly acknowledging this.

I used to have all sorts of questions when i hear of people being in a abusive relationship and still staying in it like why don't they just leave?Now having been in one myself,i totally understand their reasons.When you love someone so much,you would like to believe that eventually things will work out and that if you just stay and try to work it out,it will.

To be honest,this song is talking about Eminem & his ex-wife Kim's volatile relationship.I used to wonder why they kept breaking up and getting back together but i totally understand now.Not that i would go back to that situation ever again and now i know of signs to watch out for but i understand when you love someone so badly,you just want everything to work out.

I keep looping this song because its an emotional release for me but i can't watch the music video too much as its too disturbing for me because it feels too real for me.Guys,when a girl really loves you,even if she's a bitch normally,she would swallow her pride down and keep it quiet just to make things work.Treat girls better.Girls,stand up for yourself no matter how much you love someone because it takes two parties to make a relationship work.

lyrics for the song

Just gonna stand there
And watch me burn
But that's alright
Because I like
The way it hurts
Just gonna stand there
And hear me cry
But that's alright
Because I love
The way you lie
I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie

I can't tell you what it really is
I can only tell you what it feels like
And right now there's a steel knife
In my windpipe
I can't breathe
But I still fight
While I can fight
As long as the wrong feels right
It's like I'm in flight
High of a love
Drunk from the hate
It's like I'm huffing paint
And I love it the more that I suffer
I sufficate
And right before im about to drown
She resuscitates me
She fucking hates me
And I love it
Wait
Where you going
I'm leaving you
No you ain't
Come back
We're running right back
Here we go again
It's so insane
Cause when it's going good
It's going great
I'm Superman
With the wind in his bag
She's Lois Lane
But when it's bad
It's awful
I feel so ashamed
I snap
Who's that dude
I don't even know his name
I laid hands on her
I'll never stoop so low again
I guess I don't know my own strength

Just gonna stand there
And watch me burn
But that's alright
Because I like
The way it hurts
Just gonna stand there
And hear me cry
But that's alright
Because I love
The way you lie
I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie

You ever love somebody so much
You can barely breathe
When you're with them
You meet
And neither one of you
Even know what hit 'em
Got that warm fuzzy feeling
Yeah them chills
Used to get 'em
Now you're getting fucking sick
Of looking at 'em
You swore you've never hit 'em
Never do nothing to hurt 'em
Now you're in each other's face
Spewing venom
And these words
When you spit 'em
You push
Pull each other's hair
Scratch, claw, bit 'em
Throw 'em down

Pin 'em
So lost in the moments
When you're in 'em
It's the rage that took over
It controls you both
So they say it's best
To go your separate ways
Guess that they don't know ya
Cause today
That was yesterday
Yesterday is over
It's a different day
Sound like broken records
Playin' over
But you promised her
Next time you'll show restraint
You don't get another chance
Life is no Nintendo game
But you lied again
Now you get to watch her leave
Out the window
Guess that's why they call it window pane

Just gonna stand there
And watch me burn
But that's alright
Because I like
The way it hurts
Just gonna stand there
And hear me cry
But that's alright
Because I love
The way you lie
I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie

Now I know we said things
Did things
That we didn't mean
And we fall back
Into the same patterns
Same routine
But your temper's just as bad
As mine is
You're the same as me
But when it comes to love
You're just as blinded
Baby please come back
It wasn't you
Baby it was me
Maybe our relationship
Isn't as crazy as it seems
Maybe that's what happens
When a tornado meets a volcano
All I know is
I love you too much
To walk away though
Come inside
Pick up your bags off the sidewalk
Don't you hear sincerity
In my voice when I talk
Told you this is my fault
Look me in the eyeball
Next time I'm pissed
I'll aim my fist
At the dry wall
Next time
There will be no next time
I apologize
Even though I know it's lies
I'm tired of the games
I just want her back
I know I'm a liar
If she ever tries to fucking leave again
I'mma tie her to the bed
And set the house on fire

Just gonna stand there
And watch me burn
But that's alright
Because I like
The way it hurts
Just gonna stand there
And hear me cry
But that's alright
Because I love
The way you lie
I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie

P/s please do not post comments trashing anybody as it will not be approved.This is just my take on what i have been through.Thanks.

Guys And Gf's Handbags @-@

mood:weirded out...
listening to:Forever by Chris Brown,Whoa Oh! (Me vs. Everyone) by Forever The Sickest Kids,Shuo Hao De Xing Fu Ne by Jay Chou


hey,

have you ever seen guys holding their gf's handbags?its almost as though their gfs don't have hands to hold their own handbags or somethin like that...(rolls eyes...)

i saw that today in a mall.its not the first time i've seen it.its not like i'm against bfs holding things for their gfs.its perfectly alright if its like loads of shopping bags while shopping,a heavy sling bag or bagpack whilst in college or while going out but handbags that look like LV handbags or like the size of a normal handbag?what the heck is that for???

Honestly,i've never gotten a guy to hold my handbag for me unless i'm getting something and my bag is in the way because i feel that unless i can't carry it (like a heavy bagpack or sling bag) or its in my way,i prefer to be independent and carry it myself.

Yes,i've had my guy frenz request to carry my bagpack or my sling bag for me when they feel its too heavy for me to carry and most of the time,i reject their requests,i prefer to be independent.

I really can't get why gals could be ok with their bfs holding their handbags for them.they wanna feel taken care of?there are more ways they could feel taken care of other than ppl carrying their stuff for them.

Well,that's the random quirky thing i noticed today.until next time,take care and tell me of quirky random things you notice :)

love always,

quirkylilprincess :)